HELP PLS what do u think about this situation?

My man had a couple of bad months (financially) so we haven;t been going nowhere, maybe like once a month for a drink or 2, thats it. He finaly got a good pay this month and so I was looking for more action for us (Just to let you guys know, I do spend my money on us too, specialy on his dinners I cook for him). He rang me 2 days ago saying he is going to buy wheels for his car for like 200quid and so he won't have much money for the rest of the month. I told him well, if its important to you then sure go for it , on what he reacted : Oh but u also important to me. I was obviously not happy from the tone of my voice but what could i do? If i start to blame him he will get upset that im telling him what to do. So I was hoping that he will get the message and wont buy that stupid wheels so we can spend some quality time, but yesterday.....he went and bought them. I now feel like he doesnt really care about us , all he cares about is himself. Do you think im right to be upset???

He never really gets me anything or does surprises for me...hes a good guy, doesnt drink or go out late nights but i dont know...HELP PLS what do u think about this situation?
i think you have a right to be upset definitely! But at the same time guys don't always get the messages..sometimes you have to be honest and straight forward. You should have told him and should still tell him that you didn't want him to buy the wheels and go out together and do something!!! If he still bought it then you have a bigger right to be mad!
It depends on the wheels. If the car needed new wheels, well, that is for both of you. If he bought them to show off, he's got his priorities messed up. He probably does care, but, isn't thinking right. You need to be able to tell him what you think. If you can't and he gets mad, he's not a good guy and you need to get rid of him. Seriously.HELP PLS what do u think about this situation?
Tell him how you feel. He might not realize how he is acting is affecting you.
as the man he should want to pitch in and pay for stuff. tell him exactly how you feel, and if he blows up, leave him and find a real man.HELP PLS what do u think about this situation?
it is his money let him do what he wants but also give him beans and rice for dinner see how that works out
There is no doubt that your husband loves you a lot and you obviously are important to him.you being upset is logical but i suggest try to see it from his point of view and bring these things to his notice without directly objecting to purchase of wheels.i am not an expert but it would be sad if this small issue seeds tensions in a nice couple like you..

and not that you are demanding but because you said he is a nice person,love him by having low expectation.
girl you are totally over reacting!



just being together should be enough whether its staying in with a bottle of wine or going out.



material things mean nothing



enjoy each others company and just go with the flow.
and instead of waiting for him to do these things for you why don't you do them for yourself? if you don't have a paying job, get one.
hug him then cry and then do the "self pitty thing" lol and then talk he will end up feelin sorry for ya hehe works everytime for me =) good luck
Tyres or wheels? Wheels aren't a necessity if what you have is fine. If you're already a little strapped it doesn't make sense to buy them. A nice time out for the both of you and put the rest in the till for a rainy day would be the wisest thing to do.
Were the tires a necessity or are they tires that are high dollar and he wants to drive around trying to impress people? If they were a necessity...then give him a break...If he just bought them for any other reason...dump him...because his priorities are seriously messed up....
tell him how you feel and money should be something you two need to be together and spend quality time together