I have 2 people that I hang out with. One is my roommate and best friend, the other is a girl I've known for most of my life who I consider a cousin. They are the only people I hang out with, as I don't really get along with my family, and I have no real desire to hang out with my other friends, who like to do things I can't afford to do.
Anyway, after liking her for about 8 months, my best friend and this girl hooked up, and now they're dating. They only do stuff at our apartment, and what used to be the three of us hanging out has become the two of them hanging out as a couple with me.
This wouldn't be a problem except that
1) I feel like a 3rd wheel...knowing that at some point they'll want me to clear out.
2)Whenever I try to leave them alone and go crash or do homework, they keep saying "No! Stay and hang out!" Which I do, for about ten minutes, and then my roommate says "Weren't you going to go for a walk?" or "Are you going to bed now?" which I take to mean he doesn't want me around.
3) When I try to give them space, they get offended that I don't want to spend time with them.
4) They ask me on an almost daily basis if its "awkward" for me that they're dating.
5) I can hear them having sex through the wall between our rooms when I am trying to fall asleep.
6) They don't seem to understand that I am a third wheel.
7) I've been single for over a year now and have no desire to spend time with a couple, which only serves to remind me that I don't have anyone like that.
Its gotten to the point that whenever I hear about the fact that they are spending time together, or that they will be, or see them together, or know they are together in the next room, or anything like that, I get pissed off.
I want them to be happy, but when I try to back off, they get pissed, and they think I'm overreacting.
How do I deal with the fact that them being together means I'm a 3rd wheel, or some weird pet they obsess over and then ignore?|||5) Must be EXTREMELY awkward for you...
But I think since they are your best friends, after all, you should tell them what you wrote here. If you have the guts to put it here to hundreds of people, you should be able to tell the people who it's about. And if they think you're "overreacting," then tell them that you're not and keep insisting that you are not. Technically, you are a third wheel. But don't try to make them break up. Just tell them that you'd like for them to act like they're not a couple when they're around you.|||Make some new friends or something. Or get a girlfriend for yourself.|||shyautisticgirl@rocketmail.com
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