What am I supposed to do when my husbands best friend is a woman part 2?

I recently asked the question: What am I supposed to do when my husbands best friend is a woman? i received several responses of what 2 do -- and I confronted my husband about it and i feel great to get everything off my chest about how i didn't like how he was treating me and that all the time that they were spending together left me out and it was seeming like i was the 3rd wheel in the relationship... well now the 'friend' is upset and not talking nice about me and ignoring me and only acknowledging my husband --- so now what do I do? I told my husband that that is not a true friend if she wants to come in between our marriage --- things are still not right b/c he wants to make us 'both' happy... is it the point where I need 2 say her or me?|||She wants your husband, simple as that. Friend my behind. It ain't that much friendship in the world. The only friend that can come between you and your husband is God, only; because He is the glue that keeps you two together. You are wise to put your foot down. Make it clear to your husband that you WILL NOT be the third wheel and he needs to make his choice. The so called friend being upset is only confirmation of her intrusion.





A real friend would tell you that it isn't so and you are being silly, however; I will respect your wish because I like the both of you and our friendship.|||she needs to get out of the middle. that is not right. your husband needs to stick up for you. that's his responsibility. don't nag him, but remind him of that. it's definitely not right for him to let someone come in between the two of you. the fact that this is another woman makes it even weirder.





he has no obligation to make her happy. however, he does have that obligation to you. i'm sorry, but he's a jerk!|||WOW. If he's not cheating (and in the very least he is emotionally... his bst friend should be YOU) he's being extremely Insensitive and disrespectful. Why would he want to make her happy? Something is NOT right here.





You do need to say more... you need to tell him that it is inappropriate to spend so much time with any woman, and that he isn't being loyal by staying freinds with someone who treats you horribly.|||Basically, yes. It's not right if he's also trying to make her happy. I would usually say there isn't a problem with a spouse having a friend of the opposite sex, but when things are getting to the point where you're getting left out. So yeah, tell him it's her or you. You shouldn't subject yourself to this.|||I do not understand why choosing his marriage over someone he used to love is so hard...





I think you need to face the fact that he is playing both sides.





You should be number one....If he presense bothers you, then he needs to dispose of it.





If he is unwilling, I would rethink why you are even married.|||Here's the problem I have with your story.





WHY DID HE TELL HER??





How dare he take the issues that his wife brought to HIS attention and go run and tell her?





Screw this chick. If she's pissed then that's what she gets for being a "best friend" to a married man. And your husband needs to find new MALE best friends. Seriously.|||I can understand that he wants to be nice to you both, but if she being mean because you want to be no.1 in his life? She either wants him or just wants the attention he gives her. He really needs to decide if it's going to be her or you.|||you and her and him should never spend time together


if you are friends with her then spend time with her or with other girlfriends with her but not him


spend time alone with him and her and let him spend time alone with her but not to long


or just introduce some other guys to him


and he will eventualy grow out of her and move on|||sit down w/ both of them. look her in the eye. and your right, if shes gonna s*** talk thats not a good friend and your husband needs to respect that and see it. im sure youve never asked him to cut off all contact, but you are the priority now. she needs to go find her own man|||You are exactly right....It should be you or her....and he better be picking you!!!





Is this other woman in a relationship? Reason why I am asking is if she wasn't then it sounds like she may have a crush on your husband.|||If she were truly a best friend...she would respect your marriage and back the hell off....You are his wife and you should be his best friend....It is totally f*cked up that he wants to make you both happy.....|||Your husband needs to decide TODAY who his WIFE is!





You are right, he needs to make a choice. Seriously. This woman doesn't sound like a friend to me at all!|||get rid of him, goto: www.thepayback.com read the stories|||Oh my God, the problems between the two of you should stay between the two of you. So it seems your husband has gone straight to her to talk about what you said. Your husband does not have his priorities straight.





It is not her business to know what is going on between the two of you!! He totally crossed the line in discussing your private issues with him. It was his duty to take in all of your concerns and decide for himself to do all he can to reassure you. Not go and create more problems for you.





So now she is saying not so nice things about you with your husband? So now, she is trying to cause problems in your marriage. This is not the kind of friend you keep around. I think she has other intentions by her reaction.





I would be really worried about what else of your marriage he has been sharing with her.





I think you need to seek marital counseling.|||basically, just tell your man that you trust him. Just be honest about whats going on between them. Then just kill the issue. Your husband might be disappointed with you nagging behind him about his best friend and in his angriness might even say some bad things against you. Just trust your man but keep track on his activity with his best friend. Actually do a research... What is it the she has that you don't have. If its a listening ear then give it to him. Its time to do your real part as a wife. Be a wife and a consoling friend. sometimes we can not control things. the only things we can is do our best. He is not leaving you...... He married you....... it means he chooses you to be his lifetime partner. till death do us part. if you continue nagging about his friend you might as well accept the apart thing......If your relationship sure will stand the test of time. then you don,t have to upset yourself nor troubled by it.... Do you know I myself really need a friend. Because I feel carefree with them. I can bring to them my most insufferable problem and they can make me laugh...Don't make your husband choose between cheese and jelly peanut... both were enjoyable to eat. same with your husband. both were important to his life. So be it...... Respect him because he is your husband. Enough is enough... close the issue and be a wonderful wife to him.|||You knew he was friends with this woman before you got married. Why are you now complaining about it? You should at least indicate how long they have been best friends? I did not see that in your first question at all. I think your husband is doing the best he can to keep the peace between both of you. Giving him an ultimatum will probably backfire on you no matter what he does. If he kicks his friend to the curb then he will start resenting you and you don't want that to happen at all. I think you should pull back for a while and see if things calm down before making your next move.