Sunday, January 8, 2012

18 years old and my mom still wants 2 run my life?

well i AM 18 and i will be 19 in july...never been on a date never had a real boyfriend...(i cant have guys over)my mom has never let me bhind the wheel of a car and i dont have a job b/c i cant drive and my mom WON'T take me job hunting(yea i'm still living at home with my mom...i have no place 2 go plus my dad doesnt want me 2 leave home)





but my mom calls me a Su!t and easy and all that other sh!t


she wants me 2 get on the pill but its not something i want 2 do and i'm not about 2 do it just so my mom will be happy....heck im still a virgin but she doesnt believe it...she thinks i've slept with almost everyguys i see just b/c almost every where i go guys check me out and say hi and all that jazz





I'm 18 she has always put me down heck my whole family always has


how do i get my mom 2 back off about me goin on the pill? (its not something i wanna do i mean heck if i'm goin 2 ever have sex then yea i'm goin 2 make the guys wear a condom unless im married 2 the guy LOL)


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how do i get her 2 give me more freedom????????|||i understand your position. i know some parents are there and instead of their inability, they show cruelness, tortures on their grownup children. This kind of treatment will give aversion on them. They forget this and they do in the fear. see, your statement giving me sad, since the teenage is an age of experience, fun etc.,which you are sacrificing for your mother. Now, it is impossible to bring her back to normal and it is waste to expect her for freedom. Because of this, i request not to involve in other actions with some guys using condom etc., The girl's capital is their structure of body and beauty only. if you lost it with an affair, the whole life will go and no one there to take care of you. Hence, please save your virgin. why i say this is because once you tasted the affair, you will indulge in such action again and again which will affect your future. You tell her about you and your future, if she agreed it is ok. if she continues her actions which you don't like, please get married to someone you like and who understands you. That is the only option now in your hand.





There is an alternative option in which you can go for work and stay separately with some girls hostel. Certainly, any guy will come to you for dating and enjoy the life without involving sex and then get marries.





your actions and further steps should be calculative and to lead success. wish you good luck.|||Get married|||Your best bet would be going away to college. If your mom won't let you then go to a community college and commute. If you earn good grades and get accepted to a college further away she would probably let you go.





I've also found that calm honest talk can work wonders if your usually just whining or yelling. Thats just my experience. I hope it works out for you!|||Well, your situation sounds a lot similar to my friends situation. And what she did to get some respect and responsibility in her life was to prove to her parents that she was finally ready for it. Take more responsibility around the house, clean the car, do some extra work and prove to your mom that you are responsible enough to drive, get a job, and have a boyfriend. Unlike what most people believe freedom does come with a price. Hope it works out for you.|||ok...since I see that your family got you so FIRM on their hold!!..and it is because ...well..basically ..you have no other place to go!!...even though you are 18!!..basically you are free to come and go as you please..and no law is going to argue that!!...but what I would do...is get a job at the location closest to your house..yes within walking distance!!...that is the only!! way you gonna be able to break from their hold!!...you working and at same time saving money!!..and make believe and tell your mom..that yes you are on the pill..so that she gets off your back....butyou must!! get a job!! in order to eventually gain your liberty..ok..message me..ok...to provide you with other advices.ok..if you wish...good luck!!|||Well firslty you look like a girl who know's what's right and wrong.... and I know mom's can get into your nerves but just take it cool....





Firstly talk to your mom decently about what you think and if she still has a prob with it just ignore her... but again i think you are very responsible girl so make the right decision:)


Mom's who make their daughter feel like a s!ut are bad people sorry but how can she make you feel like that.... anyways you chill girl and try bein a lil rebel.... but again do the right thing....|||its easy to loose faith but it really takes a long time to bring it back on line that to when you are dealing with parents.create faith in your mother for you.god has made life in such a manner that HE has divided life into different time frame.we are supposed to do those things which are meant for that time frame.


like study when between 6-20 years of age or depend how long u want to study.


make career and future 20 to23 of age.


after that get married and enjoy your life because now u have every thing to enjoy :age,job,money and husband .now no body will stop you from enjoying your life and freedom,not even ur mom


try it|||dont, your mother is protecting you


sometimes you think that yu know better but trust me you dont


and be sure that your mother went into this part in her life and she knows what is better for you


try to talk to her be close to her at least when you will cry be sure she is the only one that will cry with you, without any price


good luck |||Simple...pay your own way..live your own life....as long as you stay in your parents home..they make the rules.


I have had 2 kids that stayed until they moved out..and by god they live the way I say or leave....period...happily they are productive and live away from home and do what ever they like.|||i h8 parents like that

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