Need some answers, in a relationship 2 years and feel like im spinning my wheels?

My girlfriend and i have been together for over 2 years now, I am happy with her, when we spend time together, but its not very often, we might get to see each other a few hours during the week, and maybe a few hours on the weekend, and sometimes its more, but not too often. Now she does work 2 jobs, i work full time too, and try to make time for her when she has time, but its not the other way around from her end. She does get an evening or two off during the week, but would rather do other things, like sit at home alone. She complains she has no free time, to spend with her friends, who do not make time for her. Personally, i will do anything to make time to spend it with her, i just feel at time she is not interested, it was much different in the beginning, really i am at a loss, it just seems after 2 years our relationship is stale, going nowhere. She is everything i want, but i cant have, i feel at times i am just a boy toy, and yes we have discussed this, and it leads to an argument, so i no longer ask. I am just looking for help.|||My boyfriend and I had the same problem earlier this year. We're approaching our third anniversary and have just gotten over this hump (ironically once I went to school). It really sucks that every time you try to talk about it, it just ends up becoming an argument, but I think you need to push the matter. I worked two jobs while I was still in high school, and my boyfriend worked one while in school, I was so exhausted with juggling the schedules that I just wanted to rest most of the time. I think she may just be tired and sorting out her schedule still. How long has she been working both jobs? If it's not long, then the schedule is just starting to take its toll on her.





The big thing I think that needs to be done here, is for her to know, and I mean really KNOW, just how much of a loss you are experiencing at the moment. Think about how the discussion turns into an argument, and try to avoid it. (For example, saying the wrong things in the wrong tone etc.) Really let her know how you feel about this, tell her everything, don't leave out a single detail. It worked for us, maybe it will work for you. All the best~|||sounds like u need to find someone to b able to care enough to work around ur schedule. if u love someone u want to spend time with them, and u will make some sacrifices.